Let’s just put it out there: none of us are perfect – no matter what you might think!
We all have our quirks, idiosyncrasies and downright obvious areas of improvement…and that’s okay because developing is as much about being aware of and working on these areas as it is about leveraging what you are already great at.
“The cost of not being humble is extremely expensive.”
– Dale Partridge
The problem is that so many people don’t admit to what they need to work on, often for fear of appearing inadequate or unfit for the task. This thinking is damaging; you run the risk of creating stress for yourself or those around you, taking on much more than you can reasonably handle or simply appearing to others as a know-it-all fool! We tend to respect those who are open and honest about what they see as their inadequacies, so get good at being humble.
How to be (and stay) humble:
- Become adept at reflecting: Look back on your successes, achievements, challenges, mistakes and failures. What happened? What did you learn? Why did it work or go wrong? What will you do the same or differently next time?
- Acknowledge your flaws: Whether it’s in how you communicate with others, your outlook and attitude or the way you approach things; give time to consider what could be done in a different and sometimes more effective way. An easy way of doing this can be to step into the shoes of those around you to consider how they see you. What works for them and what drives them up the wall?
- Be open to feedback: It takes a lot for people to give you feedback, particularly if it’s relating to something that doesn’t work for them. Much of the time, they will have thought about it long and hard before even bringing it up with you. You may not always like how it is packaged or delivered, but you have to accept it as their way of seeing things.
- Ask for help: One of the best ways to avoid being humble is to isolate yourself to the point of feeling unable to ask for help. No man is an island and no-one can do it all on their own. Asking for help demonstrates strength, not weakness.
- No-one is perfect
- We all have areas of improvement
- We’re often scared of appearing inadequate
- Become adept at reflecting
- Acknowledge your flaws
- Be open to feedback
- Ask for help